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Monday, March 12, 2012

Lolita: A Quick Synopsis

Everyone has heard of Lolita. We may not know the exact plot line, but we've basically “got the idea”, right? Perhaps not. Many readers expect a simple, sickening story of a pedophile and his morally damning corruption of a young child. What readers are delivered is a work of art. Lolita could easily be likened to an exhibit at an art gallery. Everyone expects near-pornographic images of young children, but they are delivered an intricate marble sculpture of naked children playing innocently in a field of wildflowers. There are questions – why must they be naked, why depict this with such detail? - but really, most will see that this is art, and it is beautiful. Make no mistake, the sexual corruption of young girls is a moral blunder of epic proportions in most societies, and the time period in which the book was written and staged is no exception. Nabokov masterfully harmonizes taboo love – a favorite in popular novels – with witty observations by the narrator and sly references to the audience. Mixed in are some truly deep emotions – guilt, passion, fear, distress, ecstasy, naivety, remorse, lust, and true love. I fear that too many readers simply pass over all that this story has to offer and judge it merely as a flat, sick fantasy of an aging man. Most critics share this view, and though it is nothing revolutionary, it is a worthwhile point to pursue, as the critics have failed so far to convince most outside of the literary academia community that Nabokov's Lolita is not only a work of art, but of genius.
The first part of the novel mainly chronicles Humbert's adventures before Lolita. His first love, Annabel Leigh (reference from E.A. Poe's Annabel Lee) sets the standard that must be reached by all women that Humbert will love. He describes his fascination with nymphets, slim girls with demonic qualities. The narrator frequently hires prostitutes and marries twice. It is through this second marriage that he meets Lolita, his stepdaughter. Lolita is twelve years old when her mother dies, and she is left in the care of one Humbert Humbert. Initially, the orphan is kept in the dark about her mother's death, being told that her mother is in the hospital. Humbert takes his stepdaughter to a hotel, where it is reported that she seduces him, and they copulate their relationship. Humbert writes that he fought with the decision to seduce her, that he thought of stopping short of sex. When Humbert claims that Lolita initiated the act, the reader begins to question the truthfulness and non-bias of the narrator. Though Lolita is obviously trying to advance their relationship, she becomes cold and sullen adolescent after their first encounter. What is most evident, however is that Humbert has passed the point of no return.
Humbert takes Lolita on a trip around the country, trying to keep their relationship a secret from all they interact with. They stay in many hotels on their trip, and Lolita slowly loses her naivety. She attracts men with glances and flirts openly. Humbert becomes paranoid that someone is following them, and he begins carrying a gun in his pocket. Lolita enrolls in school after the two settle down in a small town. She has lost all innocence, demanding money before performing sexual activity. Humbert finds himself falling for her, as she is losing her interest in him. Humbert's paranoia grows exponentially as he fears that everyone knows about their relationship.
Lolita obtains the lead in a school play, the script for which was written by a man that she, it is much later revealed, has fallen in love with. This man, Cue, will later be described by Lolita to Humbert as her one great love. Humbert has no knowledge of Cue, but eventually becomes paranoid enough to leave with Lolita for another trip across America. Though barely a teenager at this point, Lolita is a deceiver, and is cold and calculating. The reader begins to see that perhaps Humbert was right in being so paranoid. Lolita claims to be sick one night. Humbert takes her to the hospital, where she escapes his clutches two days later. In a frantic rage, Humbert tears out of the hospital, vowing to kill her abductor. After retracing his steps, looking for any clues as to Lolita's disappearance, Humbert begins to feel great loneliness. He forms a relationship with Rita, who is dull and stupid, but comforting to Humbert. While dating Rita, he continues to search for Lolita, leading Rita to leave him. Time passes and Lolita writes to Humbert, stating that she is married and pregnant, and needs his financial support, as he is her father. In short, Humbert finds Lolita, meets her husband – not her captor – and gives her the money. He then kills the abductor, Cue. Humbert realizes that even though Lolita has aged greatly (she is seventeen now), and is heavily pregnant with another's child, he still is in love with her. He asks her to leave with him, but she refuses. He leaves in tears.
The purpose of this short, simple synopsis was not to convey the complex emotion of the story, but to provide the basic plot, so that a reader may see that this is more than a pedophilic pornographic novel. Any reader would think that this novel was captivating and provocative. The truth is that many people have their sensors for low morality set on a high-sensitivity mode, and once they see that this is a man with an eye and lust for young girls, they are blinded to the rest of the story. If they are not blinded, then their perception is severely skewed. Lolita deserves a second look, however, as the language will draw you in, and the perils the narrator and his lover must go through will keep you reading. Nabokov's characters are quite multifaceted, and have real, human emotions. Perhaps Nabokov's greatest feat however, was making the reader feel sympathy for the narrator. Humbert is truly remorseful, and knows that no legal punishment could ever be sufficient for the pain he has caused Lolita, who lost her childhood because of his actions. He decides that he has earned 35 years in prison, as he does not agree with capital punishment. He feels that the one thing he has done right for Lolita is immortalized her true ethereal beauty in his journal, which he requests not be published until both he and Lolita are dead. They both die shortly thereafter, Humbert, while in jail awaiting his trial, and Lolita, as giving birth. If there were ever a truly twisted character that you could almost feel pity for, it would have to be Humbert Humbert, the man who realized the error of his ways too late.

Thursday, March 31, 2011

Something for Your Health

Smores Hot Fudge Sundae
vegan, makes one sundae (2 spoons!)

2 scoops Vanilla Island Coconut Bliss ice cream
2 Tbsp dark chocolate hot fudge (I found an amazing brand called Wax Orchards - it's fat free, fruit juice sweetened and so good!)
2 Tbsp vegan marshmallow creme
1 Tbsp crushed grahams
1 Tbsp mini vegan chocolate chips
swirl of soy whipped cream
(cherry optional)

Scoop the ice cream.
Sprinkle on the grahams.
Spoon on the hot fudge
Sprinkle the chips.
Dollop of marshmallow.
Swirl of soy cream.
Serve!




Let's give a big thanks to Kathy Patalsky of Healthy Happy Life.  She has so many great blog posts, and it would be great if you could give her a visit... I have nothing but respect for what she does.  

Here's the blog:  http://kblog.lunchboxbunch.com/

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

How to Help if Your Friend is Anorexic or Bulemic


If someone you know is showing signs of disordered eating, you may be able to help.
  1. Set a time to talk. Set aside a time to talk privately with your friend. Make sure you talk in a quiet place where you won’t be distracted.
  2. Tell your friend about your concerns. Be honest. Tell your friend about your worries about her or his not eating or over exercising. Tell your friend you are concerned and that you think these things may be a sign of a problem that needs professional help.
  3. Ask your friend to talk to a professional. Your friend can talk to a counselor or doctor who knows about eating issues. Offer to help your friend find a counselor or doctor and make an appointment, and offer to go with her or him to the appointment.
  4. Avoid conflicts. If your friend won’t admit that she or he has a problem, don’t push. Be sure to tell your friend you are always there to listen if she or he wants to talk.
  5. Don’t place shame, blame, or guilt on your friend.  Don’t say, “You just need to eat.” Instead, say things like, “I’m concerned about you because you won’t eat breakfast or lunch.” Or, “It makes me afraid to hear you throwing up.”
  6. Don’t give simple solutions. Don’t say, "If you'd just stop, then things would be fine!"
  7. Let your friend know that you will always be there no matter what.

Vegan, The Processed Way

Having recently converted to the Vegan way of life, after trying and failing many times, I think I'm finally in the swing of things.  It helps to have foods that you can use to transition between carnivore (which I never was) to Vegan.  I like to use processed foods to do this.  Although last night I made my own sugar-free mashed sweet potatoes... (FANTASTIC), there are some things I'm glad I'm still able to eat.  SO, whether I like the foods or not, I'm going to do a continuing post here on foods that you might not think are vegan, but really are!  This is pretty much limited to processed food, as it's obvious that a steak and cucumber are very different things.  There's one more point I need to make:  I'm not going crazy with the level to which I follow veganism.  If milk, eggs, meat (of any kind), lard etc are not listed in the ingredients, I list as vegan.  There are other things I keep an eye out for, but basically, I don't know and I don't care whether the sugar was made with bone char.  If you DO care, call the company in question... I'm here to merely send you on the right path to processed vegan bliss.

Snacks:
       
Nutter Butter Bites (Nabisco)
Vienna Fingers Creme Filled (Keebler)




Teddy Grahams - Cinnamon (Nabisco)

Oreo Chocolate Sandwich Cookies (Nabisco)
Nature Valley Crunchy Granola Bars - Peanut Butter
Elfin Crackers (Keebler)

Friday, March 18, 2011

Icky, Icky Smells, and How to Get Rid of Them

Smells are a fact of life.  They happen when gaseous particles are available for your nose to sniff out.  Simple as that.
Just because an odor smells "good" doesn't mean it is good for you.  Gasoline is great in small amounts, but the chemicals you breathe in a very harmful to your body... on the other hand, most bathroom smells aren't that lovely, but completely harmless.  What does this have to do with you?  Most air fresheners are very very very full of chemicals that can harm your body pretty quickly.  They can make you feel ill at the very least if you use such air fresheners often enough.

So how DO you get rid of smells, besides using spray fresheners?  Oust and similar brands say that they can "eliminate odors in the air, rather than covering them up".  There's a much more simple, and cheaper way to get rid of these smelly smells than by buying products though... want to know the secret?  Here it is:

VENTILATE YOUR ROOMS!

Open a window!  It may not be as simple as that though... Here are some specific ways to ventilate, most effective in getting the smell OUT.

If you have a double hung window, like these:




 


















You can open both portions of the window halfway.  Warm air escapes out the top, and cooler air comes in the bottom portion.  


If you have windows on opposite sides of a room, open both of them all the way... The air will flow from one side of the room and out the other, much more strongly than if you had just opened one of the windows.  


Invest in a air conditioner with a HEPA filter, which removes 99.97% of airborne particles. They're fantastic air cleaners, and if you run your air conditioner on low, changing the filter regularly, you can keep your house smelling great.  You can use fans to push air towards an air conditioner, or towards an open door or window.

IF YOUR GARBAGE DISPOSAL STINKS:

You're not alone.  Here's what you do.  Pour a cup of boiling water down the disposal (to clean the blades), then grind up a citrus peal (lemon or oranges should do the trick), and you'll have a great smelling sink.

Refrigerator Blues?  One remedy is to soak a cotton ball in some vanilla extract, put it in a bowl on the lowest shelf.  Take it out two days later.  If you like the coffee smell more, use used coffee grounds in a bowl instead.
Make sure your fridge is clean, and you throw out any gross food from over 2 weeks that could be stinking up the fridge. 
 
One of the coolest things I've come across for this blog so far are actually pretty small... Charcoal Filters.  Use them on your trash can lid (inside) to eliminate odor, and recharge them by placing them in the sunlight.  Here's where to get them:  http://www.simplehuman.com/products/accessories/odorsorb-filter-kit.html  ($5.99 for two)  The site advises to clean the lid of your trash can before you attach them, or they may fall off.  

Dishwasher issues?  Check the filters, and be sure to rinse food off of dishes before you put them in there.... Yes, your dishwasher can handle clearing food, but this is an article about smell, and left on food can really stink up your house if left to ruminate in a closed up box for a day (or half-day).

Finally, the stove.  Turn the range on before you heat up the burners.  Every single time.  There are some gasses that come off of the burners that can cause respiratory problems in everyone, but especially children.  Clean your filter on the range hood regularly. 

Here are some "good" chemicals you can use today to clear up that smell.  

Baking soda:  if you mix it with water, you can wash walls and smelly surfaces, or you can leave an open box in the bottom of smelly places... (like a garbage can or laundry bin or fridge or cabinets)

Borax:  works much like baking soda, but it's more concentrated.  Put 2 teaspoons in the garbage disposal, and wipe down surfaces with a mix of 1/2 teaspoon to 1 cup of warm water.  Finally, you can spray that mixture on plants to kill bugs and mold.  

Vinegar: You can sanitize stuff by using a 1:1 ratio of white vinegar and water.  The smell vinegar gives off disappears as soon as it dries.  If you still smell it, something's still wet.  Keep the air moving throughout the room to disparate the smell.  You can try using this mix in coffeemakers, or anything around the house that ISN'T made of stone.

Vacuum.... a vacuum isn't a chemical, but it cleans well enough to be considered one... :")  If it has a HEPA filter, all the better, but a little vacuuming without a filter is better than no vacuuming.  It removes smells and particulates. 

If your house smells like the following, here's what to do:

Unbathed pets:  It's most likely coming from the padding under carpets, and it'd probably pet urine.  Steam clean it.  It's the only way to get through to the padding.  If you really don't have time to rent a steam cleaner right now, you can check that the room is all dry carpeting, then sprinkle baking soda over the carpet.  Let it sit for half an hour, then vacuum it all up.   If that doesn't work, you will have to pull up the carpeting and replace the padding underneath with new padding.

Death:  If you have a mouse trap set up somewhere, prepare yourself for grossness, and check it out.  If you find it empty, begin checking behind appliances and in your chimney.  If you do find it, put it, with a shovel,  into a double layer of plastic garbage bags and throw it away.  Disinfect the shovel with bleach or vinegar and water mixture.  If you can't find the animal, or the smell is still there after a few days, call an exterminator... They'll locate and remove the animal, even if it's behind walls and under your home.  It's what they do.

Chemicals: move all the chemicals in your house to a cool place (away from the furnace) like the garage, a shed, or a furnace-free basement.  If that doesn't work, use whatever you can, and recycle the rest of it.

Bathroom rot:  If kids miss, the bathroom can really begin to stink up around the base of the toilet.  You've got to confirm it first.  If the area around the bottom of your toilet smells the strongest, that's what you've got.  Sanitize that!  :)  If that doesn't work, you've got to call a plumber.  They'll pull up the toilet (actually pretty easy), they'll disconnect it, clean it out, put in a new wax seal and caulk it up.

Smoke:  It's incredibly hard to get rid up, whether it's due to tobacco or a failed cooking adventure...You need to wash the surfaces in your house in this order:  Curtains and shades, shelves and books, walls, carpets, clothing.  Clean top-to-bottom so the dust fall the floor.  Vacuum that up.  On the non-stone surfaces and walls, use a mix of 1 part vinegar to 5 parts warm water.  If that doesn't work, realize that mattresses and upholstery and plants harbor smoke residue.  Clean them with a vacuum nozzle, then open the windows to air them out, for at least 48 hours.  If that doesn't work, you've got to get them professionally cleaned.

If you've got to have your pets on the furniture, designate one couch for them to use, one with a slipcover.  These can be washed very quickly and easily.  It's not just urine you have to watch out for, there's also the hair, skin cells, and body oil they drop without having any control over it.  So, if your dog or cat must sit on one couch, make it one with a slipcover.  Vacuum frequently, and wash your slipcovers in hot water.  Check out surefit.net for slipcovers of all kinds.



Here's the final word on the subject:  Bathroom odors.  They're embarrassing, but unavoidable, and they happen to everyone.  Turn on the exhaust fan in your bathroom to whisk odors away.  You can also light a match.  If you are hosting a party, be smart and light a candle or two.  The fire "burns away" the gasses and compounds that make up bathroom odors.  Easy enough!


See you later!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Made my Life

It's not really something that may concern you, but I think the whole world should know and rejoice: 

MY FIANCE IS A WOLVERINE. 

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Classy, Yesteryear vs. Today

This is a blog post I did on another of my blogs that just sort of crumbled... but I really liked this post, and thought I'd share it.  :)  Enjoy.


We know about the classy women of yesteryear... and even the classy men, but who's classy today?  Who do we need to look to, besides those closest to us, for inspiration in class and elegance and true style?

First, let's take a look at those beauties and gentlemen we typically think of representing the 'olden days':


 
Elizabeth Taylor, Best known for acting in 'A Place in the Sun' and ' Cat on a Hot Tin Roof'.  Also known for having many husbands, and she still remains a beautiful and classy lady.


Audrey Hepburn, no one can deny it, was one of the classiest ladies to ever live, and always portrayed nothing but elegance on the screen, most notably in 'Breakfast at Tiffany's' and 'Roman Holiday'.



Ava Gardner, how pretty she looks in this picture.  Classy, elegant, sophisticated, beautiful.  What's not to love?  She's known for her performance in 'The Barefoot Contessa'.  



For men, I am always drawn to the same three:


Marlon Brando.  May I sigh with delight now?  Yes?  *sigh*  How dreamy is he?  And why is he dreamy?  Because he can somehow pull off being a "bad boy" and not be particularly sleazy or lazy or even messy.  He portrays what I feel is some of the best male acting ... perhaps ever.  And may I mention again how dreamy he is?  Best known perhaps for the following: 'The Godfather', 'A Streetcar Named Desire', and 'On the Waterfront', for which he won an Academy Award.



Another very nice actor, Clark Gable.  Portrayed a gentleman, through and through.  Though perhaps not as dreamy as Marlon Brando, he was still quite sophisticated and handsome.  His best known roles were in the movies 'Gone with the Wind', 'It Happened One Night', 'The Misfits', and 'Mutiny on the Bounty'.  All lovely.


Another handsome man - Paul Newman.  Not your typical upper-class clean cut gentleman... but still a very kind and somehow classy man.  He had his own style of elegance that was just something all his own.  He's known for the films 'Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid', 'The Sting', and even voiced Doc Hudson in Pixar's film, 'Cars'!

Now that I've shown you the classiest I knew for the 'good old days'... let's spring forward at least 60 years to today.  Who are our classy folks of today?  Let's focus on actors and actresses for right now.  We'll get to other sorts of celebrities later, I promise.

For women, there are so many I think of, including Anne Hathaway, Nicole Kidman, Keira Knightley, Natalie Portman... the list could go on forever... but those are my top choices.  Pictures of the beautiful ladies?  Sure! Here you go:

How gorgeous and classy you are, Anne Hathaway.  


 I must say, I absolutely love the job Nicole Kidman does in many of her movies... My two favorite would have to be 'Moulin Rouge' and 'Austrailia'.  Wonderful acting by a wonderful lady of society.


How strong and confident she is!  I know that not everything Keira has done could be classified as exemplary... however, she strikes me as an entirely classy individual, with an outstanding sense of humor, and a lovely career as an actress.  She can be elegant when the situation warrants it, but fit in with anyone, being a humble individual.


Strong and ferocious.  Lovely.  Natalie Portman.



Let's take a look at men, now.  I know you all are so excited for this, the classiest and most sophisticated male actors of today.  I would have to cast my votes for: Michael Caine, Morgan Freeman, George Clooney, and Leonardo DiCaprio.  

One of my favorite actors of all time.  When he has a minor role in a film, and I just happen to catch a glimpse of him, I feel compelled to shout out that it's him.  He just brightens my day every time I see him.  Being British does not make him inherently sophisticated or classy, but it does help, and he is both classy and sophisticated.


Morgan Freeman.  How smart and gorgeous.  With 39 award winnings and 35 nominations, Morgan Freeman is an atypically talented actor.  Whether he's acting the part of God for a production, or is a convict's best friend, Morgan Freeman hits the nail on the head.  He's talented, sophisticated, and portrays himself as a wise man. 


Voted Sexiest Man Alive, and who could disagree.  Although he is getting older, he really hasn't lost that charm from his early days.  He's still sexy, lovely to watch perform, and I would assume a wonderful person to have a conversation with.  His roles really are different, with some being silly, or ridiculous - as in 'Burn After Reading' and some being quite intuitive - 'The American'.

Finally we come to....

A younger actor, compared to the rest of this series... but still a famous one.  His early roles included that of Jack Dawson on 'Titanic', an enormous role for him to fill.  Later, as in earlier this year, DiCaprio did splendidly on a couple of movies that left you with quite the same feeling of slight confusion and extreme interest in the outcome, and yet a feeling of hopelessness for DiCaprio's character.  The two movies to which I am referring are 'Shutter Island' and 'Inception'.  Loved both of them, by the way.  


These are the actors of the heydays and of the todays which I have fallen in love with, not only because of their work, but also because of the heart they put into everything they do, and the sophistication they bring onto the screen from their daily lives.  Truly beautiful people we should all strive to be like.